Check List: Are You a Gifted Parent?


  1. Do you answer your childís questions with patience and good humor?
  2. Do you take advantage of his questions and expressions of interest to guide him into further learning and exploration?
  3. Do you help your child develop physical and social skills as carefully as you encourage mental growth?
  4. Do you help him learn how to get along with children of all levels of intelligence?
  5. Do you avoid criticizing him by comparing him with his brothers and sisters or companions?
  6. Do you set reasonable standards of behavior for your child and them see that he meets them?
  7. Do you impose firm and fair discipline that is consistent and neither too harsh nor too permissive?
  8. Do you show your child that he is loved for his own sake and not for his intellectual achievements?
  9. Do you try to find something specific to praise when he shows you his work? (A generalized compliment means little to gifted children.)
  10. Do you help him to select worth-while reading materials and television programs?
  11. Do you provide your child with hobby materials and books of his own?
  12. Do you provide places where your child can study, work at his hobbies, and display his work?
  13. Do you participate in some of your childís activities?
  14. Do you let him learn about and share in some of your hobbies and interests/
  15. Do you let him learn about and share in some of your hobbies and interests?
  16. Do you enable your child to take advantage of lessons and activities offered by private groups or community organizations?
  17. Do you teach your child how to budget his time, organize his work, and improve his study habits?
  18. Do you help your child to make his own plans and decisions?
  19. Do you give your child increasing independence as his ability to handle responsibility increases?
  20. Do you give him household responsibilities and other tasks suitable for his age?
  21. Do you avoid overstressing intellectual achievement?
  22. Do you avoid ìpushingî your child too hard by not being too demanding about after school lessons or activities?
  23. Do you resist the impulse to show your child off before relatives and friends?
  24. Do you resist any temptation to exploit his gifts commercially?
  25. Do you teach him ton use his gifts for the benefit of society rather than only for his own selfish purpose?
  26. Do you encourage him to set high educational and vocational goals?
  27. Do you refrain from trying to pick his vocation for him but try to help him learn about as many occupations as possible?
  28. Do your expressions of attitude and your behavior set the example you want your child to follow?
  29. Do you avoid talking down to him and speak to him as you do to adults?
  30. Do you try to speak as correctly as you want him to do?

This check list is not all inclusive and there is no passing score. It is intended as a set of reminders as to what are the most important principles for promoting a childís giftedness. The parent who can answer ìyesî to a large proportion of these questions can feel he is effectively promoting his childís gifts.

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